Boudoir is quickly becoming more and more popular among the masses and I couldn’t be happier about this. You see, boudoir photography has been around for ages, but prior to about 5 years, it was very much focused on gifting photos of your body to your significant other. While I don’t necessarily have a problem with this, I do have a problem with the fact that when women started to do it for themselves, they received a lot of push back, being told they were narcissistic, “should cover up”, and other various phrases that make me a bit ragey. It drives me nuts, because it’s okay for women to be oggled and seen as beautiful by someone else, but as soon as she sees that within herself it is too far? Wtf.
We also know that there are a rising number of boudy photogs all over the world with a variety of different prices, styles, experience etc. but at the end of the day, boudoir photography IS a luxury experience and therefore, a luxury investment and you want to make sure that you are getting everything you want out of your session. While the dollar cost is up to you, I want to talk about the REAL cost of boudoir photography from a client AND boudoir specialist viewpoint and set some expectations as to what will be expected of YOU as a client.
I know it sounds silly, but you will need to be ready to invest in taking time for yourself, and as a sister to a mom with three babes, I know that it can be hard for women to make time for themselves. Sessions with us range from 3-5 hours and the reveal another 45 minutes to an hour, and in the grand scheme of things, you may not think that that is a lot of time, but try asking a mom with a toddler to take a 30 second pee break….it ain’t happening. So, if you are wanting to do a boudoir session, be prepared to take time for yourself (I promise I won’t interrupt your time by tugging on your shirt and telling you when I poop).
This is one of the hardest things for people to be and we ask for a lot of it during your sessions. We will ask you to tell us your why, get you to talk about your real feels about your body & view of yourself, and we will ask you to literally and figuratively bare yourself to us. In exchange, we will get vulnerable with you. We will tell you OUR struggles, experiences, and let you know that you are not alone. We will also ask you to sit in front of a big screen TV and watch intimate photos of yourself, which can be slightly scary, but we are there with you every step of the way. There are hundreds of women of all sizes, shapes, and backgrounds that come to us with their own stories and we absolutely love that, but the one thing they all have in common is that they are ready to get vulnerable with us.
This is another thing people have a hard time doing. Every time a woman sits down in her consultation, I can see the fear that I might not be able to deliver her expectations (thankfully, I’m a cocky fuck who accepts this challenge). It can be a hard thing trusting someone to help you see yourself the way you want to be seen, and I appreciate every woman that has given me the chance to photograph, chat with, and help them through understanding that while they are beautiful, their looks aren’t the best thing about them. Trusting your photographer is probably one of the biggest “taxes” one has to pay when doing a boudoir session, but when you do, you reap the benefits big time!
I find that about 50% of my clients are more than happy to let me take the reigns, but the other 50% are fearful about letting go and I find this sometimes relates back to #2 & #3 above. I always let my clients know that I would prefer you to give me everything you’ve got, because A) you will never see the “bad” photos and B) you are here to get in touch with yourself. Usually after about 20 minutes the 50% that like their control, will loosen up because I am dedicated to helping you get in touch with your bad ass self, but I promise the further you go with it, the more epic your images will be. Also, we are artists before anything else, so the more control you give us the more artistic and emotional your images will be…hold back and you will get duplicated images that have no real emotion behind it. Essentially: give it up, we know what we’re doing.
I know it sounds a little creepy that a tax you pay to doing a boudoir session is that you have to show your naughty bits, but honestly isn’t that why you are here in the first place? Wanting to know what it feels like to get nudie, explore your body in a judgement free zone, and experience the freedom of being a sensual, bad ass woman? Now, not all photographers will ask you to go completely naked, but if you come see me, I will. So this is an expectation I set with all my boudy babes and why I do consultations beforehand. Here we believe that your body is the only vessel you will be provided in this lifetime and it has probably gotten you through a lot of shit, so it deserves some love and pampering too. Also, though it can be daunting, I personally find that most clients are more comfortable completely naked than they are with lingerie.
Lastly, the acceptance of change is something that will be necessary when you do a session. What I mean by this, is that you must be ready to accept that you are a bad ass, fearless, confident, and babely woman and stop telling yourself the fucking lies that we all have been known to tell ourselves. If you aren’t ready for the possibility of change, then a boudoir session probably isn’t for you. We all know that change is scary and it’s scary because it essentially is an accumulation of all the above. We always associate with “change” with a negative outcome, questioning our desires and answering with our worst fears. The “what ifs” take over and so we never move beyond our comfort zone…doing a boudoir session WILL require you to change (but I promise it will be one of THE MOST POSITIVE experiences of your life).
So, whether you decide to spend a lot or a little bit of dollars on your boudoir experience, I urge you to find a photographer that will be able to fulfill the other cost requirements: someone who is trustworthy, excited and passionate to help you move forward in your journey to celebrating your size & goddess-like nature, someone who will give you permission to take time for yourself, someone who will gently coax you outside your comfort zone (or push you, haha), and someone who is confident to take control when you are in such a vulnerable situation. It’s important that lines of communication are open between you and your photographer and just like dating, not every client will be for every photographer and vice versa. Find someone who gets YOU. And if that person happens to be me, shoot me an email and we will be more than happy to set up a consultation!
Miss J and I got together over the holidays to play in the studio. There was really no expectation aside from dress, have fun, and see what happens. Take a look below at the beauty we captured during one of 2016’s final boudoir sessions!
Miss R.’s shoot was a first for me. She booked her session in the morning (not uncommon)…..OF HER WEDDING (uncommon!) How cool is that? While she was getting married that day, the intent for her session had very little to do with her lucky partner…it was all about her! Her post after she saw her photos had me in tears. She. Was. Amazing.
Of course I thought she was awesome, and I absolutely love that she fully trusted me to do whatever I wanted with her, but I am going to let this hottie tell you what the experience meant to her, because at the end of the day it’s never about me…it’s always, always, ALWAYS about HER.
I got back from my reveal session with Teri Hofford Photography and I just wanna say… Wow.
I decided on a boudoir empowerment session for myself because I had too much issues with hating myself and the way my body’s current state is. I’m in the process of transitioning to reach my goal, but I want to be able to actually love myself without a doubt to actually see myself in a different light. There are various times when I don’t get as much likes on a photo, having a shitty day, or do something mentally exhausting where I just wanna say “I’m not fucking good enough!” Or “I’m ugly,” “I’m too fat,” “Nobody wants to see all that,” or in general fear that I’d be bullied more about my looks than I was in high school. Since I seen what she’s been doing out there to help build body positivity with women out there, I decided to go for it for myself for me. Being someone with anxiety, it’s hard to see myself as more than enough. Sure the hubby might check out the end results and stuff, but HE SEES ME EVERY DAY SO ANYTHING HE SAYS I THINK IS BULL CRAP WHEN HE COMPLIMENTS ME.
I was nervous as hell in the beginning because of my white sheet session, but when I got into it I felt more confident with little I was wearing (sexy outfit, done up hair, and fierce makeup).
When I got there today, I was excited in going but at the same time having doubts in myself to see if i actually looked good or not. Having a surge of anxiety, a lot of thoughts in my head like “what if they’re not as good as I was hoping?” “My booty probably won’t look that good,” “My boobies only look good from some angles,” “I have really bad skin (keratosis pilaris + stretchmarks), I’m afraid … they would ruin the pic.”
She sat me down, showed me a beautiful sildeshow that I was holding back my waterworks because… After seeing the first few I was like, “Oh damn, I’M FIERCE AS FUCK! I’m fierce as fuck no matter what size I am.” And that’s the kind of image I want to remind myself of that I am me, THAT IS ME! WOW! And some of these pics are way too hot for Facebook. Lmao!!! Heck I even thought I had a nice pair! I was wowed and I’m still wowed!
Definitely worth it, if you’re struggling to see yourself in the way others see you in a positive light… GO SEE TERI! The journey is real!!!
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The end of 2016 is almost here, so I am wrapping up all of my sessions & 2016 blog posts over the next week! Get excited for a plethora of hotties over the next few days! First up is the gorgeous Miss S, whom I met when I went to Omaha last year! I went to attend an awesome leadership conference, but as usual, when I travel I love to shoot! I put a shout out to all the boudy photogs I know and Miss S responded, saying she would meet me at the hotel. This grogeous babe showed up with some lovely pieces (the top one I am actually wearing as I write this….) and it was a lot of fun shooting another photographer! This babe brought all the sex and sensuality required for her session and knocked it outta the park. Next year I am heading back to Omaha in July, so if you are wanting to score yourself a kick ass shoot, let me know and we can sort out the details! In any event, check out the fabulousness that is Miss S!
As 2016 comes to a close, I am looking back at all of the babes that I had the pleasure of photographing, learning from, and empowering. While I haven’t been able to share all of their stories due to privacy, I can guarantee you that ALL of them are inspirational, bad ass babes ready to rock 2017! For today’s post, I am featuring Miss N, who came out to help me with our promo shoot last summer. Her story and message is extremely inspiring as 2016 was her year to “find herself” and this session was part of that adventure. Miss N describes her experience as “fun and exhilarating. I left the studio on a high. The week I had to wait to see my pictures was painfully long, but in the end so worth the wait. I was blown away. It was a great experience and I get to keep the memories forever.”
Take a look at her photos below and be sure to check out her interview during our video at the bottom of the post!!
EEEEE!!! I am beyond stoked for everything that is coming down the pipe for 2017! One of the coolest things, is that myself and my cohort Lindsay Rae of Lindsay Rae Photography in New York are co-hosting a variety of workshops specializing in photographing women with curves and creating curves for those babes who are more athletically built! A side effect of our awesome niche, is that we also both utilize the same premium album company to provide our clients with gorgeous, long lasting products for our clients to preserve their gorgeous images and therefore, we have created our own album line coming out next year called Confident Curves. To get one of the samples made, I threw together a kick ass shoot with the gorgeous Miss C (who has been featured a few times on the site!) to celebrate our Empowering Emerald cover – a gorgeous “crocodile” looking leather cover in emerald.
This is only ONE of a multitude of gorgeous covers that will be coming in the new year with a variety of confidence-inspiring names! But anyhow, let’s get to the goods! Check out this epic inspiration session shoot with Miss C, inspired by the dark hues of the winter season: burgundy, eggplant, and emerald. A lot of the outfits you will see come from Adore Me!! PS. You will also see Miss C as the cover girl of our 2017 Welcome Packages!!
I first met Taylor when I went to a workshop hosted by the epic duo of The Last Forty Percent and I had the pleasure of photographing her among the other attendees. While I had some gorgeous photos of her then, I was really looking forward to photographing her in her Ottawa apartment while I was there! Little did I know, how talented this babe was. Not only does she model, bend all the ways, but she is also an extremely talented videographer & photographer at Taylor Oakes Productions. We added a little saucy edge to her styling with basic attire and some GORGEOUS harnesses and cuffs from Uncuffed. Without further adieu, feast your eyes on this little beauty.
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